Fear Kills

When individuals are unconsciously scared of their own needs they sometimes make up stories about their partner’s weaknesses. Their partners’ short comings become a bigger deal than need be. For example, you’re looking forward to seeing your partner but he or she is often late. You’re aware that you feel disappointed when it happens but are you aware that you also feel foolish for being so excited to get together? Then your unconscious mind begins to play games. Instead of merely feeling disappointed, your mind creates devilish stories. “My partner doesn’t care about me.” “My partner is selfish.” “I shouldn’t trust.” “I’m someone easy to disrespect.”
The scared ones withdrawal from the relationship offers protection from further imagined hurt but also leaves him/her feeling lonely. And it’s my partners fault!