“Give it a rest,” is not the same as avoiding. One partner always wants to process more than the other. It seems to be a weird law of becoming a couple. One needs to express feelings too frequently for the other. Try something different instead of playing […]
Read more →When individuals are unconsciously scared of their own needs they sometimes make up stories and exaggerate the effect that their partner’s weakness’s have on commitment Their partner’s short comings become a bigger deal than need to be. Let’s say you’re looking forward to seeing your partner but […]
Read more →If sex has stopped look around because anger is in the bedroom. The best sex life begins out of the bedroom. Speaking nicely, not venting all of your disappointments on your partner. Not expecting your partner to be the person you wished you could have been. Intimate […]
Read more →Most of the jealousy I’ve encountered between couples in therapy seems to be based on a similar dynamic. One partner wants more than the other partner wants to freely give. The demanded upon partner either feels bullied, trapped, disapproved of, or weary of angry fights. So the […]
Read more →“My relationship problems consume me and I don’t have the concentration to live the life I value. ” While conducting couples therapy I frequently hear versions of this lament. One husband said, ” Let’s stop fighting so we can work on climate change and do more charity […]
Read more →Many couples are opposites. One likes to talk while the other is more withdrawn. Or one is anxious while the other seems easy going. Practice switching roles. Like an actor, try on a new part. See if each of you can take the opposite side of an […]
Read more →I saw a couple on the sidewalk meet up. He was carrying a shopping bag. She too. Clearly they were new loves. He asked her with a smile what did you buy? She smiled back and said let me show you. Remaining curious about your partner is […]
Read more →Loving someone in a romantic way is a grand feeling. But romantic love also distorts our thinking. We may see what we want to. Because we see the good in our lovers we may believe our love will change their self-destructive behavior. We want our love to […]
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